Charlie and I were there for 2 hours. While one person asked me an extremely long list of questions, a team of three people did various activities with Charlie. Then they all came in the playroom and had three other cute and tiny children come play with him. They are all in the preschool and close to his age.
The difference between those kids and Charlie was stark. Because the children he's around routinely all have figured out a way to get along more or less with Charlie it was interesting watching him with kids who don't know him. Their verbal, pretend, and social skills were markedly different than his. They would have to be blind to not see it.
How they responded to me was completely different this time. The condescending tone was gone and they made no efforts to placate me. Last time they were so busy pointing out every thing he did well that I don't think they noticed the gaps in skills. They didn't engage in the back-and-forth stuff this time around and were very careful with what they said and what words they chose.
They want to watch him one more time in a setting he's familiar with so they'll probably come along to Ladies' Bible Class nursery to watch him. They'll generate their reports, have their discussion then get back to us with their results.